Though twas ME who banned ME. Because it's finished as far as I'm concerned.
There are a few people there who seem smart and interested in making the world better. Mostly, it's a bully-circle-jerk-slugfest, and I want no part of it. No more of my IP address. No sirree.
And I don't care at all who's behind it. I really don't.
Because while I'm pleased as punch that former teachers, blog-friends, my MOM, might like my work and want to publish me in their little mags...
I KNOW that I don't send my book to places where I have an "in" not because I'm afraid, but because that's the way to be. My momma raised me right.
Beyond contests? Sure, why not! If a former teacher I like and respect calls me tomorrow and says, "Oprah asked me to send her a few good writers to showcase in her "Oprah poems" series. Are you in?"
I'd do it in a heartbeat! Because I'm really not concerned with the Bullshit of it all. I don't care where I publish, or how I get there, as long as I'm not fucking someone else out of a turn. And if you I need a good dentist, I'll take a referral for that too. Finding a good dentist is HARD!
See, there are rules inside me.
I don't send to contests where I know a judge. I don't introduce bad writers to my own agent. I don't accept crap for the magazines where I work. Ask anyone! I used to read for the Iowa Review and anyone who knew me then and asked to send me poems got the same answer, "Send em to the office!" Because the last thing I want is to read my friends' work. But if I start my own magazine I'll sure as hell solicit from the brilliant people I happen to know. Right now I'm shopping a nonfiction book with my brother and sister in it. If you think that's not okay... you're a moron.
An old family friend happens to be the Exec. Editor of the NYTimes . Guess what? I've never hit him up for a job... And when I was writing music reviews I never once covered my friend Pieta, or anyone connected to her... but I did write a human interest piece about an actress I knew.
There are difference, subtle differences, and grey lines people. The world is almost always grey, which is a good reason to stay okay with yourself, inside yourself.
Because lying and cheating are poisonous. They poison your accomplishments. They make you insecure and sick inside.
I don't need Foetry, because the lines are drawn clearly for me, inside me.
I would've supported Foetry, but they're so cold and mean and careless and cruel, I never will again... as I won't be friends with anyone who calls someone I like (or most anyone) a cunt or a twat. Foetry plays very dirty.
Mostly I feel bad for them, because they just seem like really unhappy resentful people. I hope
SOMEBODY loves them, but it won't be me. Nobody should be so pathetic.